Here's an issue my mom was just telling me about. She was going to be in the area where her elderly aunt and uncle live, and was hoping to visit them. She called and talked to her uncle first, who was extremely enthusiastic about her visit. Then he passed the phone to her aunt, who said, "I'm feeling so awful, I don't want to see anyone. You know I love you and I wouldn't tell you not to come, unless I was feeling really miserable." (I don't know if this is physically, or emotionally, or what; if she could be left alone for a while, or not.)
So, my mom won't be visiting them. But, she felt bad, because she hasn't seen them in a while, and her uncle seemed so excited about the idea. Obviously, the ideal would be for husband and wife to actually talk to each other and get their stories straight; but barring that, what would you do in this situation?
The couple are in their 70s or 80s but live in their own home still; I'm not sure if they drive or not. I suggested calling back and asking to take the uncle out to lunch or something like that.