Agreed! For 1, I think it's almost too late already for the second relationship. 32 isn't ancient, but it could be significantly harder for her to conceive and carry a pregnancy to term than, say, when she was 28; and what if he says, "Let's wait 3 years," and suddenly she's 35 and I think that's automatically a high-risk pregnancy, isn't it? Plus, even if he has a definite answer like, "Let's wait 3 years," who's to say that in 3 years he won't be like, "Eh, let's wait another 2." The real issue is not that there's no deadline; the real issue is that she's ready to start very soon, and he gives no indication of agreeing. I think she should have set a deadline when she started dating the guy, but of course she can't time-travel and redo that.
And, I think it's a really bad idea to push someone into agreeing to have kids, or have kids without their enthusiastic and whole-hearted excitement. I know a number of couples who have gone that route anyway, and maybe they have "made it work" in the sense that they haven't gotten divorced (yet) and maybe the reluctant person eventually came around (allegedly), but it's such a shaky foundation to build the most important thing ever (a human being you have to raise) on.
It kind of sounds like, yeah, she's been vocal about what she wants from the beginning of the relationship, but she hasn't really been listening to and understanding his (lack of) response. And he's just been skating along, hoping she won't keep bringing it up. I really think this is one of those issues where if you both aren't immediately on the same wavelength, you need to seriously rethink even starting a relationship, especially if you're already 28.
For 4, I wasn't quite sure what the letter-writer meant when she said the younger sister spreads the Netflix password around "like her bed." Prudie took it to be a rather mean-spirited jibe at the sister (who is 19) having a lot of sex and/or boyfriends, but I initially thought it just meant the sister was messy... like, she's careless with the password the way she's careless with all her things, and has them strewn all over her bed. I'm probably wrong, though. But, this sort of situation always makes me curious about the living situation--like, are the younger sisters actually living with the older one in the same house? Where do the parents live? I would only share my password with people living in my same household, and anyone else who doesn't live there and doesn't pay the bill can butt out of the conversation. And anyone who gets the password and abuses it doesn't get the next password (which would be immediately changed the second I noticed unauthorized viewing, and I would be monitoring). That seems pretty obvious to me. But, the deeper situation does seem to be unresolved issues about favoritism, and even if the letter-writer set a boundary on this particular issue, others would almost certainly crop up if she doesn't address the root problem.
For 5, yeah, I thought Prudie raised some good points. It does feel bad to fire people, even if they deserve it, and that's just a sign you are human. Holding a position of responsibility means doing unpleasant things sometimes, because the buck stops with you. If you don't want to be in that situation (and I don't, personally), then you can't be the boss and have the privileges of that position. I am kind of assuming there was a process of documentation and feedback and opportunities for change--the letter-writer doesn't mention it, but since she does mention HR having to go through some steps before the person can be fired, that suggests it's a sizable company with rules to be followed, and usually those rules include documentation, etc.. If she were the owner of her own small business or something like that, it would be different. But if you can say that you warned the person fairly and supported them in attempts to improve, and they still didn't, it still stinks but at least you gave them a chance.
For 6, I thought that was a good situation because both people did something wrong, and while there were certainly hints that the letter-writer was trying to get HER wrong cancelled out based on her boyfriend's wrong, she wasn't super-focused on that. It seemed more reasonable, like what a real person would think. And, I think Prudie was right to say, "If he had asked you why you were being distant, without checking your phone, would you really have confessed to him you were flirting with someone else? Doubtful, since even when he confronted you with evidence you tried to get out of it." Not that the boyfriend's snooping was okay, but it seems like the girlfriend really did do something first to raise his suspicions--it wasn't just him being controlling or nosy.
Honestly, I think I'd just break up and vow to do better with the next partner--the whole thing is tainted now. But, I heard some advice in a random place the other day, that one reason marriages don't last "nowadays" is because people don't talk about problems--you need to talk about them, not just sweep them away until they build up and break you. And I thought, yeah, that is exactly my problem, I don't like to talk about problems, I'd rather just leave the problematic person behind. Except, in my case, this has always been a good strategy, in the sense that I've never so far regretted leaving those people behind. If anything I should have done so sooner, and wasted less time on them.