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Offline Amara

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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #15 on: June 12, 2018, 04:22:13 pm »
I hope you get your wish, MrTango.  :)

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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #16 on: June 12, 2018, 05:03:16 pm »
Fathers' Day is coming up.  Maybe I'll get lucky and not have to change any of BabyTango's diapers that day.

/not likely
//a guy can dream, right?

Just curious.  Did Mrs. Tango get a diaper free Mother's Day last month?   :)

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« Reply #17 on: July 24, 2018, 08:51:56 am »
Fathers' Day is coming up.  Maybe I'll get lucky and not have to change any of BabyTango's diapers that day.

/not likely
//a guy can dream, right?

Just curious.  Did Mrs. Tango get a diaper free Mother's Day last month?   :)

You know, I don't remember...  But I have a great Father's day card that BabyTango scribbled all over with crayons.  That's still sitting out on my desk at work.

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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #18 on: July 24, 2018, 11:19:07 am »
Aww, that's so sweet, MrTango.

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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #19 on: July 26, 2018, 03:26:23 pm »
I decided that I wouldn't be *that mother-in-law* that demands that her children + partners visit for the holidays. In the Netherlands we have two days Easter and two days Christmas. Now that both my kids have partners I realize that it could turn into a logistical nightmare where my kids have to travel by public transport on a holiday to get from A to B and that it's not going to be relaxing for them in any way shape or form. So, my philosophy now is "If we can get together with all the kids + partners during the season, that's fine!"  If they want a Christmas dinner with all the trimmings the date doesn't really matter, being together is what matters. If that means that my husband and I are alone on December 25 or 26 <shrug> so be it.

I also decided that I won't stress over cooking during the holidays. Not everything needs to be made from scratch. I can if I want to, but I don't have to. And the kitchen is mine, people can help, but no one is taking over and making something that isn't on the list. The oven is in use for the turkey and when the turkey is resting I'm making the side dishes, so no, you can't bake cookies 10 minutes before the turkey needs to be in the oven!
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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #20 on: July 26, 2018, 03:46:44 pm »
So, my philosophy now is "If we can get together with all the kids + partners during the season, that's fine!" 

This is what my family has done for all holidays and special occasions for as far back as I can remember. It makes everything so much less stressful and so much more enjoyable! Christmas celebrated with family on December 20 is just as special as Christmas celebrated 5 days later. A birthday celebrated the weekend before or after the actual date is just as celebrated.
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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #21 on: November 15, 2018, 10:24:09 am »
I told my mom I was NOT going to go to family Thanksgiving this year. I didn't go last year, and this week she asked me if I was planning to come this year, and I said no. She was upset and asked me to reconsider, but I was firm, and she didn't press the point--she knows I would just dig in further.

Last year she told people I was sick. She was like, "Well, what should I tell people this year? I already used 'sick' once," and I was like, "I don't care, tell them whatever you want, whatever works best for you." Really, it's whatever will make things the easiest for her, and get her the least blowback from people like my grandma. I couldn't care less what they think, but my mom has to be more politic about it.

Then she says, "Maybe I'll tell them you have a boyfriend, and you're spending Thanksgiving with his family!" I just laughed. I have no idea if she's serious or not. I'm sure she hadn't really thought it through, because that would be a terrible thing to tell people. This would be MAJOR news within the family, they would all remember it, and they would all continually pester my mom about who this guy was and when were we getting married and all that. I told her I didn't care, but I wasn't going to keep up with anything elaborate.

Of course, later I wished I'd thought to say, "Why not have some fun with it, and tell them it's a girlfriend?" Because a number of my relatives would NOT like that, and it would have been amusing to hear how they tried to cover it up and be polite (or not).

Obviously I do not have the right attitude to be attending family holiday gatherings, if I just want to mess with people! I'll probably have to go for Christmas, though, more for logistics reasons, as I'll be staying with my parents anyway, and I don't want to be left alone in their house all day (scary old house in the middle of the country).

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Re: Your Holiday Hill to Die On
« Reply #22 on: November 21, 2018, 10:07:47 am »
I told my mom I was NOT going to go to family Thanksgiving this year. I didn't go last year, and this week she asked me if I was planning to come this year, and I said no. She was upset and asked me to reconsider, but I was firm, and she didn't press the point--she knows I would just dig in further.

Last year she told people I was sick. She was like, "Well, what should I tell people this year? I already used 'sick' once," and I was like, "I don't care, tell them whatever you want, whatever works best for you." Really, it's whatever will make things the easiest for her, and get her the least blowback from people like my grandma. I couldn't care less what they think, but my mom has to be more politic about it.

Then she says, "Maybe I'll tell them you have a boyfriend, and you're spending Thanksgiving with his family!" I just laughed. I have no idea if she's serious or not. I'm sure she hadn't really thought it through, because that would be a terrible thing to tell people. This would be MAJOR news within the family, they would all remember it, and they would all continually pester my mom about who this guy was and when were we getting married and all that. I told her I didn't care, but I wasn't going to keep up with anything elaborate.

Of course, later I wished I'd thought to say, "Why not have some fun with it, and tell them it's a girlfriend?" Because a number of my relatives would NOT like that, and it would have been amusing to hear how they tried to cover it up and be polite (or not).

Obviously I do not have the right attitude to be attending family holiday gatherings, if I just want to mess with people! I'll probably have to go for Christmas, though, more for logistics reasons, as I'll be staying with my parents anyway, and I don't want to be left alone in their house all day (scary old house in the middle of the country).

Oooooh, this could be fun! But seriously, consider an "excuse" of "Lynn2000 is spending Thanksgiving volunteering this year." They don't have to know that you are volunteering your time for a Netflix marathon and personal Franzia "wine tasting."
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