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General Discussion / Re: Time management tips-what is yours?
« on: February 18, 2020, 11:49:17 am »
Mainly, I plan ahead. I choose what I'm going to wear the day before, if it's for the morning, or earlier in the day for evening. If I need to bring anything with me, I gather it and place it on the kitchen bar which is very near the back door where I exit.

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Updates and Announcements / Re: Hello? Hello?
« on: February 03, 2020, 10:43:52 am »
I haven't checked in in a while, so I'm glad someone is still out there!

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Family / Re: Dear Polly and the mushroom allergy.
« on: August 13, 2019, 12:52:45 pm »
Quote from: Athersgeo on August 09, 2019, 08:08:29 am
Quote from: lowspark on August 08, 2019, 10:30:41 am
Why would someone do this? They have deliberately alienated their son AND their grandchildren. I've never understood people who do that.

It's not a huge leap to think that there's something about the girlfriend/wife that the family don't like and what they were hoping was that by alienating her, their son (the boyfriend/husband) would drop her like a hot rock.

What they didn't count on was boyfriend/husband sticking up for girlfriend/wife and taking her side.

My personal suspicion is that whatever it is they don't like, it's something relatively minor (tattooes or piercings, perhaps - or maybe just the fact that she has an allergy?) as opposed to major (race, religion) because the latter is likely something the husband would have had an idea about ahead of time.

I get that some people do that, specifically try to alienate their offspring's romantic choice in hopes that they will cling to their parents instead of their spouse/partner/whatever.  What I can't connect with is the philosophy of that. I mean, it might work sometimes, but mostly not. It's awful risky and usually just ends up alienating the offspring as well.

But even then, even if someone tries this and it backfires, why wouldn't they immediately back off and apologize? Is it really better to lose all contact with your child than to go ahead and grin and bear it and accept the mate?

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Family / Re: Dear Polly and the mushroom allergy.
« on: August 08, 2019, 10:30:41 am »
Why would someone do this? They have deliberately alienated their son AND their grandchildren. I've never understood people who do that.

Quote from: Poesie on August 07, 2019, 07:51:34 pm
The in-laws are the champignons of sociopathic level passive aggression.

I see what you did there.  ;D

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Introductions and Hellos / Re: Hey
« on: July 22, 2019, 09:43:17 am »
Welcome to the group! Good luck with the wedding planning! Looking forward to seeing your posts!

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International Knowledge Exchange / Re: Tap Water
« on: July 10, 2019, 09:45:30 am »
I drink tap water and most people here do I think. (Houston)

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: June 20, 2019, 12:37:40 pm »
I agree that "they" is plural. It is often used as singular as a non-gender-specific pronoun but in fact, English does have one!
It's "one".
As in "to each one's own" instead of "to each his own" or "to each their own".

It's just not in common usage.

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Wedding Etiquette / Re: 3:30 pm wedding starts at 5 pm
« on: June 18, 2019, 09:01:48 am »
It's definitely not a Jewish thing.  I'm Jewish and have been to many Jewish weddings (including my own!) and they generally run on time, or at least within a few minutes. Just like every other wedding, regardless of religion or lack thereof that I've been to.

I just don't get why anyone would deliberately do this to their guests but it sounds like it was deliberate and I don't think there's going to be any explanation or apology forthcoming.

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Wedding Etiquette / Re: 3:30 pm wedding starts at 5 pm
« on: June 17, 2019, 08:33:32 am »
Wow! Now, y'all couldn't have been the ONLY guests to arrive early, or even to arrive within a few minutes of the invitation time. Were there other people waiting to be admitted to the ballroom? Was the whole "audience" seated and waiting all that time? Or were there people arriving after the doors opened, thus indicating that they knew the wedding wouldn't start till later?

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General Discussion / Re: Ongoing grocery delivery thread
« on: June 10, 2019, 09:30:15 am »
If you get a shopper who is more open and chatty next time, you might just ask them what they see.
Is there a way to contact Instacart for live help or at least via email to find out how to change those settings?

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General Discussion / Re: Ongoing grocery delivery thread
« on: June 03, 2019, 09:25:25 am »
I've only just recently noticed Amazon delivery trucks and suddenly they're everywhere! I guess they have a distribution center near here now and are using their own delivery system now instead of FedEx/UPS/USPS as much as possible. At least these are marked trucks not just some guy with boxes in the back of his vehicle.

Surely they have investigated what steps are needed to coordinate with building and neighborhood entry restrictions in order to smooth the delivery process, right? But then again, who knows. I agree that ultimately, that's their problem to solve, not yours. As far as losing customers, I think Amazon may be beyond caring about that now.  :-\

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General Life / Re: Anyone else following the Kon-Mari decluttering? Or a different system?
« on: May 29, 2019, 04:21:21 pm »
I sell stuff on eBay. It can be quite surprising what will sell and what won't. It can be time consuming to sell stuff on line as you have to take a picture, do some research to make sure you describe it well and list it at a good price, i.e., one that will sell while still making the effort worth your while. Plus, once it sells, there's the time it takes to wrap it up and ship it.

I do it in my spare time. If I have time I'll list stuff. And I just continue to relist till it sells or till I figure I've given it enough of a chance and I just ditch it. They give you 50 free listings per month, plus they often give out 100 or more free listings randomly. So I never pay to list, only if it sells.

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General Discussion / Re: Ongoing grocery delivery thread
« on: May 29, 2019, 04:15:21 pm »
Interesting piece. Doesn't sound like there's a whole lot of money to be made doing this kind of job, which isn't too surprising I guess. Quote below means she made as low as $8/hour one day, but as high as $21/hour on another.
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Today, Gordon delivered eight orders in 10 hours and made $133, before extra bumps for heavy orders and good reviews. Today was OK. There was one day when she made $50 in six hours. That wasn't worth it. Gordon's best day's haul was $255 — when she worked almost 12 hours.

And some caveats to be considered:
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Once, Gordon accidentally accepted a Costco batch with 81 cases of water.
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Many delivery workers keep a mental track of locations that require climbing stairs, like apartments without elevators. On Gordon's mental list are also a house with the guy who greeted her in a robe, and an older man who pressured her into bringing his groceries inside and said he'd been tracking her.
UGH.

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General Life / Re: Anyone else following the Kon-Mari decluttering? Or a different system?
« on: May 08, 2019, 09:58:42 am »
Ah yes. I do know that since that IS what is always referred to when mentioning her. And she did definitely emphasize "spark joy" and getting rid of a lot of stuff. But in the end, I did come away, apparently subconsciously, with the concept that her lesson was all about organizing the stuff that they kept. Maybe because of the amount of time in the episode that was devoted to how to fold clothes and how to organize the kitchen. And again, I feel like a couple with toddlers is inevitably going to collect more stuff as time goes on.

Like I said, I would love to see this couple a year later and find out if they are able to maintain the mantra of not bringing in more stuff and of getting rid of things they no longer need or want. But more importantly, I would like to know if the stress they were experiencing has been, at least somewhat, ameliorated.

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General Life / Re: Anyone else following the Kon-Mari decluttering? Or a different system?
« on: May 07, 2019, 12:18:01 pm »
Yes. The underlying issues.

Some people are going to be organized and have everything put away, at least most of the time, regardless of how much stuff they own. Some people can own very little, and still have a messy dwelling.

Now, getting your stuff organized definitely helps. I do like her folding/storing method of making everything stand up so that it's all visible when you open the drawer. But again, your inventory is not static. So this method is not a one-time thing. It's an ongoing effort.

Now, that is not to say that the couple in the show will not be able to maintain that effort. Maybe this exercise was exactly the impetus they needed to help them make that commitment. I just know that it's not easy to go from experiencing paralysis due to feeling overwhelmed to consistently being diligently organized and orderly.

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