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General Discussion / Re: Ongoing grocery delivery thread
« on: May 29, 2019, 10:41:39 am »
Interesting. We have several delivery options in my neck of the woods; Instacart, peapod and a couple local stores that do their own delivery. As well as Shipt; which I think is just like Instacart.

Amazon now does this with delivery (using contractors who pick up jobs here and there) and I have to say, I'm not all that impressed. Mainly because of inconsistencies. I share an outside door with my downstairs neighbor and his GF. between the three of us we each have a Prime account. I've opened my door to find packages just left outside, had them ring my bell and drop my package, had them ring my bell for my neighbor's packages (not really their fault as doorbells are not marked but i jsut did it), and ring my bell, and WAIT for me to open it to hand me the package. They will also sometiems take a photo of the package left at my door, sometimes not. It reallyALL depends on who'd doing the delivery on any given day.

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General Life / Re: Anyone else following the Kon-Mari decluttering? Or a different system?
« on: May 29, 2019, 10:16:38 am »
Quote from: ginger aka Gellchom on May 08, 2019, 03:15:02 pm
For those of you who sell stuff on line, how do you do it?
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I sell mostly clothing, shoes, bags etc. on various fashion apps. I list, and then when they sell, pack up and ship

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General Life / Re: Hotel stay and picky eating
« on: May 29, 2019, 10:15:05 am »
don't worry about not eating breakfast; when I was there a couple of years back, my hotel had a "full English breakfast" included in the room rate. I ate there pretty much every day but one or two, due to timing. I doubt very much whether they noticed or not that I missed a couple of days. And as far as not drinking or using th bar, again, they won't notice or care. 

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General Life / Re: Anyone else following the Kon-Mari decluttering? Or a different system?
« on: May 08, 2019, 01:43:56 pm »
Quote from: lowspark on May 06, 2019, 01:02:49 pm
OK. I watched about 2/3 of the first episode... and I kinda hated it. That poor couple is overwhelmed by parenting and I don't really think that's going to be solved by dumping everything from their closets and dressers into a big pile and then being pressured to look at every item. You could see how stressed the mom was doing that.

Now, granted, some decluttering is definitely called for, but it's not really going to solve their bigger issues, which are that Mom is having a hard time budgeting her time and energy in the right way to deal with being a mom of two active toddlers, and Dad is putting all the responsibility on Mom since he has the more demanding job.

Dad needs to understand Mom's frustration and help out in some way. Mom needs to recognize what is working for her and what is not and what she needs Dad to step up and help with. Sometimes, it just takes having your mate help with one thing to make you feel understood, appreciated, supported, etc. She's currently NOT feeling that way.

I didn't finish the episode so I don't know what the conclusion was, but I was cringing throughout at the situation which I don't think decluttering is going to solve.

On another note, I was annoyed by the fact that Marie can and does speak English when she wants to, and then reverts to her native language and an interpreter. I found that to be distracting and unnecessary.

OK. One more thing. When I find a task to be large enough to be overwhelming, my best method is to tackle it a small amount at a time. So to clean out my closet, I might look through 10 items a day, or 20 or whatever, so that I'm feeling like I'm taking small bites. If I were to dump every item of clothing I own onto my bed, and then not be able to rest until I went through everything, 95% of it would most likely all just go right back in and I'd be completely exhausted simply from taking it out, seeing it all there in a seemingly insurmountable pile, and then putting it back in.

I get the philosophy but I vehemently disagree with the method.

you go farther in than I did! I do agree with you though; decluttering is not the whole answer here.

And I do the same, when my space gets cluttered, i will do one of two things. Focus on say the coffee table, then something else, OR focus on paper, then kitchen stuff etc.

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General Life / Re: Anyone else following the Kon-Mari decluttering? Or a different system?
« on: May 08, 2019, 01:41:27 pm »
I don’t follow any system per say, but I do declutter a couple of times a year. I live in a 1BR apt, so space is kind of limited, and somehow my possessions seem to creep up and begin to take over! I also sell online, mostly clothing, shoes, bags etc. So when I do my purging, I will sell the “good stuff” and donate the rest, which is still in good shape, but maybe doesn’t have quite enough “value” to make it worth my while to sell.

I’ve gotten pretty good at things over the years. For example, I prefer to read e-books, so I went through all of my printed books, and anything available in e-book format, I got rid of. Same with DVDs. Aside from my Disney and Hitchcock movies, anything available to rent or stream, I donated.

Clothes I usually try and do when seasons change. So when I put my winter stuff away, and bring out the spring and summer, I look at what I’ve worn, or haven’t, what fits, what I’m tired of, and act accordingly.

And during my “off” times, I’ll try and tackle smaller things, like going through socks, undies, dishes etc. on a regular basis.

I've found if I stay on top of things, its generally more manageable

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Wedding Etiquette / Re: Care & Feeding: Paying for the wedding
« on: January 15, 2019, 01:45:32 pm »
Quote from: Kiwi Cupcake on November 17, 2018, 09:53:16 am
*They* are planning the wedding and expect *you* to pay? No no no! Put your foot down now or they will continue to walk all over you when it comes to the children and future grandchildren. It's one thing to say they won't pay but they also don't get to plan the entire thing on your dime.

I agree to just hand over a a check in the amount they want to give and stand firm. The HC can accept it and be grateful like grownups or they can die mad. Hopefully they raised their daughter right. I can't imagine putting my parents in that kind of financial position for one party.

This! 100%. i recall back when I was in my 20's, and in a pretty serious relationship. My dad joked he'd give us 10K if we eloped. Thankfully it never came to fruition, and 30+ years later, I'm still single. I do know if i were to get married at this stage in my life. i and my husband to be would be paying for all of it. its now just my mom, and while she MIGHT offer to help out, i don't even know that I'd accept any financial help from her! it would depend on what it was. and how much

but yes, the groom's parents get NO say in anything. Not how the wedding "should" be, not who pays for it, nothing. hopefully the B&G are reasonable but you never know.

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General Discussion / Re: Little Things That Annoy You
« on: January 14, 2019, 01:27:33 pm »
Quote from: MrTango on September 12, 2018, 10:54:41 am
Quote from: Homemade Tequila on September 11, 2018, 12:02:40 pm
My co-worker is doing a popular weight loss plan.  How do I know this? She brings it up every. single. day.  Without fail.

There's almost nothing in the world I hate more than diet talk.

Even worse than diet talk is when someone who is on a diet gets upset that the people around them are being big meanies for eating their own non-diet food in the presence of the dieter.

I had one co-worker complain that I shouldn't be eating at my desk because they were on a diet and seeing my snack sitting on my desk was tempting them to break their diet.  My response probably wasn't the nicest thing I've ever said.  It was along the lines of "I really don't care about your diet.  Now leave me alone so I can focus on my work."

My pet peeve is when i AM trying to lose weight and watch what I eat, and people seem to think they can be the food police! Um no, no you may not. I have a relative who has struggled with her weight all her life, well, since her teens. She's always looking for a quick fix, and doesn't really want to commit to changing her lifestyle, eating habits etc. She's not morbidly obese, but she's definitely fairly overweight. As am I. And has yo yo dieted for a good 40 or so years. She started again losing (by doing fad diets and other stuff i will never do) and lost a bunch. I started WW and did well, albeit a lot slower. I told my mom, even though she lost more than I did, in a shorter amount of time, I bet you i keep it off longer.

True to form, while I have gained a bit back, which I need to lose, plus what I didn't before, she's gained quite a bit back>

Anyway, the police thing is that anytime I've mentioned something i eat, or need, she immediately tells me its "bad" like the time I said i needed to stop and get more fruit. "oh fruit is BAD its all sugar" well yeah, if you eat an entire melon or box of berries in one sitting, of course it is. But everything in moderation isfine.

the other one was one time we were out and about. I was having a protein bar for breakfast while she was having some kind of meal replacement bar from whatever pricy diet plan she was on at the time. She commented MINE had a lot of sugar in it. Uh huh. thanks.

after she left (she had been visiting) i saw the wrapper to one of hers on top of my trash, fished it out, and compared it to the sugar in my bar. Mine had 1g more

so if you know I'm trying to eat healthier, and less, etc. don't be telling me what I can and can't eat.

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General Discussion / Re: TIL: Today I Learned...
« on: December 28, 2018, 09:16:35 am »
Quote from: Poesie on November 27, 2018, 11:55:03 pm
Had to google the song, Instant Karma, after reading that, corgiqueen. Turns out I’d heard it heaps of times but thought it was called “We all shine on.” D’oh!

When i listened before, didn’t hear “instant karma’ either but something more like “come on”.

I think that was my issue too; until i heard it called IK and sang, i didn't quite get what the lyrics actually were saying.

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General Discussion / Re: Wrapping Ideas for Cash or Gift Cards
« on: December 27, 2018, 12:26:19 pm »
Quote from: Crispycritter on December 07, 2018, 09:08:12 pm
Quote from: Lynn2000 on December 07, 2018, 02:35:14 pm
Quote from: Crispycritter on December 07, 2018, 02:03:21 pm
This reminded me of two years ago I bought a Christmas candle in a box for $2 at a thrift store.  Inside was a gift card for $25.  I guess they never thought to really open the candle up.  And - I kept the gift card, which probably would be considered wrong by most.   

Not at all! It's just like people who see a $2 painting they like at a garage sale, buy it, get home and realize it's a lost Monet. You had no idea the gift card was in there when you bought it. What should you do--take the gift card back to the store and ask them to somehow return it to the person who donated the candle? I wouldn't even hesitate for a second over that one--there would actually be more ambiguity for me regarding the painting from the garage sale, because I would know who owned it before me.


Just imagine someday reading an ettiquette column where the person got a secret santa gift that was supposed to be $30 or so and instead only got a $10 candle.  Or - sending a thank you note for the lovely candle, and getting asked if the gift card was to the right store!!  Whether you regift or donate - always at least open the gift?

Hahaha. I almost did this to myself, but trashing it. My BFF, my mom (her mom #2) and I exchange gifts. Mine was a really cute glass votive holder, a fishbowl, wrapped in tissue, in a box. with a note. Ok fine. so i take it out and look. Its cute!  Then later on, i was taking out the tissue, and a $10 gc fell out, it had slipped down under the tissue!

But i also look at stuff I regift. Just to be sure there isn't a note or anything on it that might give away the fact its a regift.

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General Life / Re: Another Tipping Thread... Mandatory Tip?
« on: November 29, 2018, 03:22:16 pm »
Oh no. I've never heard of any restaurant doing this, but if it happened to me, I'd not only make a fuss about getting my change back, no matter how little, but also never go back. I also hate it at sit down restaurants when I'm paying with cash, and i'm asked if i "need any change" Unless I have the exact amount, including tip, and I tell them, "i don't need any change" then yes, yes, i do want it back.

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General Discussion / Re: I Accomplished Something Today! Or Plan to...
« on: November 28, 2018, 01:12:44 pm »
Let's see, so far this week I've managed to make the dough for 2 of my 5 cookies i want to bake. Put away my clean laundry, went to the bank to deposit checks I've been holding onto. Today at lunch I went to the grocery store to pick up the remaining ingredients for my cookies, including two plastic tins to put them in, and in the next day or two, will make the dough for two more. I don't plan to bake all of them for a while, but I have my last PT appt. next week, so i want to bring them cookies as a thank you. so I need to bake SOME this weekend, and by having all the dough made, i can just take out what I need, bake them, and be done. and then go back and bake the remainder when it gets closer to Christmas.

I also did some christmas shopping online, so am almost done with that too

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Holidays / Re: Holiday Gift Givings - open topic about gifts
« on: November 28, 2018, 01:08:04 pm »
I really only buy for my mom. We are both practical, if not boring, so we maintain "wish" lists, updating each year. We will also purchase things not on the list, if we think the other will like it. but it makes things a lot easier, and neither one of us ends up with stuff we don't want or need.

Mom and I exchange gifts with a couple of cousins and their spouses, but we send a nice food gift basket to each, from the both of us.

that's really it, i don't exchange with friends or any other family, so my shopping is pretty easy. no kids, nieces or nephews either

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Holidays / Re: Best and Worst Holiday Celebrations!
« on: November 28, 2018, 01:02:24 pm »
I'm a big fan of simple celebrations. Both Thanksgiving and Christmas its just me and my mom. I cook, not a traditional turkey dinner, but something we both like and enjoy, usually rouladen with spaetzle and red cabbage. This year i made the spaetzle from scratch! it was easy and tasty!

Christmas we do appetizers on Christmas Eve, since i sometimes have to work, even though only half a day, and for Christmas dinner we do a beef tenderloin with potatoes and veggies. Easy and tasty. minimal fuss, mess and cleanup.

I spend both Christmas eve and day nights at my mom's and depending on when it falls during the week, get up and go into work on the 26th.

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General Discussion / Re: TIL: Today I Learned...
« on: November 27, 2018, 10:24:24 am »
Quote from: Jem on October 30, 2018, 10:43:44 am
This is a completely different context, but my mind was blown. My husband is a drummer* in two bands (one acoustic, one "rock and roll") that play covers of popular songs. A couple nights ago he was showing me his set list and I saw the song "Panama." I said, "Panama? I don't think I've ever heard that?" He started to sing it (it is by Van Halen) and I instantly recognized the tune, but laughed at the lyrics he was signing. "Paaaaanamah…….Paaaaaanamah-ah-ah-ah....."

"Hahahahah! You mean 'Let it rock......let it roll-oll-oll-oll……!!!!" My husband looked at me, uncertain if I was trying to be funny. "You mean that's NOT the lyrics?" I asked.

He pulled up the lyrics, and sure enough, for DECADES I have been singing (loudly, by the way, and clearly) the wrong lyrics to that song. Mind. Blown.

*Not for his job. Just for fun and extra cash, but mostly for fun.

in a similar vein, knowing the name of a song, and also hearing a song, but not putting two and two together that they are one and the same.

About 12 years ago, i went to see U2, for my 40th bday. oh wait no, 13. Anyway, John Lennon was killed ON my birthday, and the show was the day before. So as he likes to do, Bono decided in honor of JL, to play Instant Karma. I knew the name of the song, and the JL sang it, and i also recognized the song when they started to play it. At that point, i made the connection between the song I had heard many times before, and the actual title. DUH

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General Life / Re: Good table manners - what dos and don’ts were you taught?
« on: November 27, 2018, 10:15:17 am »
Quote from: ginger aka Gellchom on November 19, 2018, 04:27:32 pm
Here is one that hasn't been mentioned, but it was a BIG one at our house: the Yuck Rule.  No saying anything disparaging (or making faces, etc.) about anything that was being served or that someone else was eating.  You don't like it or want any, fine, you don't even have to try it, but don't interfere with others' enjoyment (saying something like, "No, thanks, I don't care for olives" or something like that is fine, just not something like "Oh, gross, olives -- how can you eat that?").

I believe the modern locution, as stated by Cynthia Nixon, is "Don't yuck my yum."  (I'm glad I wasn't around when she ordered a cinnamon raisin bagel with lox, capers, and onions, appalling New Yorkers and Jews everywhere, though!  I would've had a hard time restraining myself.  Steven Colbert called it "The worst Nixon scandal in the history of politics."  :D  But even then, he didn't say it in front of her while she was eating it).

I'm glad our parents taught us that.  I find it really rude and obnoxious when people do it -- what is the point?

Ah yes. As well as what my mom always told me, if you are at someone's house, and served something you don't like, depending on HOW its served, you can either pass it on, if its being passed around to serve yourself, or if its served TO you, you don't have to eat it, but don't make a fuss about it either.

Which brings me to the great gefilte fish debacle when I went to Passover with a friend, at her Grandmother's house. Or Aunts. i don't recall, but at that time, I despised fish of any kind. no matter how it was prepared, so certainly not cold fish cakes. So it comes, on a plate, and i managed to choke it down as not eating woudl have been obvious since it was that and nothing else on the plate. Each bite, i took a sip of water. I finally finish it, and my friend's grandmother notices, and asked, oh would you like some more? I politely declined. But she persisted. Several times, each time, i politely declined. UNTIL the time when my friend piped up, "Grandma she hates fish, and only ate it to be polite" in front of her entire extended family! It was at that point i wanted to sink into the floor!

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