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Wedding Etiquette / Re: 3:30 pm wedding starts at 5 pm
« on: July 21, 2019, 04:01:24 pm »
Definitely not a Pagan thing, either.

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: May 10, 2019, 04:27:21 pm »
I couldn't name one song by either of them, so...

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: April 22, 2019, 08:36:33 pm »
I think I just hate hype, period.

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Family / Re: Care & Feeding: Babysitter drinking on the job
« on: April 09, 2019, 02:17:41 pm »
Have the parents even considered that maybe their child is the one who's been secretly "sampling" their liquor?  It seems they have no less evidence incriminating their daughter than they do against the babysitter.

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General Discussion / Re: Wrapping Ideas for Cash or Gift Cards
« on: December 09, 2018, 07:45:37 am »
I'm all about prank gift card holders.  :)

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General Life / Re: How to get yourself not invited........
« on: November 13, 2018, 03:09:18 pm »
Yikes.  I don't think I could keep up with a friendship where an invitation was a summons.

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: October 21, 2018, 08:33:51 pm »
Macaroni and cheese is a breakfast staple.   :D

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General Life / Re: How to politely tell people they can't use...
« on: August 23, 2018, 07:18:22 pm »
Combination lock, to which only members of your group know the combination?

I vote other people's "emergencies" are other people's emergencies, not yours.

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: August 17, 2018, 06:06:40 pm »
I was an introvert before it was cool, and I rarely read books or watch TV or movies.  I enjoy these when I get around to them, but they aren't my go-to pastimes.  I can't truly unwind with a head full of someone else's dialogue.

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: August 11, 2018, 03:11:41 pm »
Also, going back to unpopular opinions, I think I'm the only person in the world who doesn't care about Dr. Who and has no interest in watching it.

No, you are not.

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General Discussion / Re: The "Unpopular Opinions" Thread
« on: August 09, 2018, 07:36:03 pm »
As far as cover art goes, the "rear-three-quarter view of some chick in a ginormous ballgown" concept needs to take a hiatus.

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Did the first group of friends meet up an hour early without telling you and your husband?  Because that alone would be enough to end a "friendship" with me.

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General Life / Re: **** Does Not Equate to Price Gouging
« on: June 26, 2018, 03:18:46 pm »
I imagine some readers would be similarly disgusted had the characters accused the vendors of "robbing them blind."

Crassness and brashness are here to stay, fortunately and unfortunately; sometimes it's going to hit closer to home than others.  I'd call this a case of "the artist wasn't wrong to do it, and readers weren't wrong to be upset."

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General Life / Re: 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People
« on: June 10, 2018, 08:54:49 am »
This jumped out at me:

Being miserable can give the impression that you’re a wise and worldly person, especially if you’re miserable not just about your life, but about society in general. You can project an aura of someone burdened by a form of profound, tragic, existential knowledge that happy, shallow people can’t possibly appreciate.

I have met so many people who do this. I call it Dennis Miller Syndrome. Back in his stand-up comedy heyday, Dennis made a living showing off how "smart" he was by putting down entire groups of people who obviously didn't see the world the way he did.

Even outside of the comedian realm, there is a mindset that considers it shallow/Pollyanna-ish/ignorant/downright stupid to look on the bright side when there is so much darkness in the world. I find it far better for my own mental health to channel my inner Pollyanna whenever possible. My IQ is, shall we say, up there. I don't need anyone calling my intelligence into question because I choose not to dwell on the negative.

So very much this.  The notion that misery makes me matter and contentedness makes me a worthless, hateful cause of misery to those who suffer and matter...if that's not the core of my urges to self-harm, it's the layer immediately surrounding it.

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General Life / Re: 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People
« on: June 10, 2018, 08:07:54 am »
Agree with Airelenaren, some of the things on that list seem likely part of depression/anxiety, not a choice. When I went to read the article, I found it mocks people with depression and anxiety in an extremely unhelpful way (maybe I’m offending against number 14, being too critical). The lack of empathy was profoundly unfunny:

3. Give yourself a negative identity. Allow a perceived emotional problem to absorb all other aspects of your self-identification. If you feel depressed, become a Depressed Person; if you suffer from social anxiety or a phobia, assume the identity of a Phobic Person or a Person with Anxiety Disorder. Make your condition the focus of your life. Talk about it to everybody, and make sure to read up on the symptoms so you can speak about them knowledgeably and endlessly. Practice the behaviors most associated with that condition, particularly when it’ll interfere with regular activities and relationships. Focus on how depressed you are and become weepy, if that’s your identity of choice. Refuse to go places or try new things because they make you too anxious. Work yourself into panic attacks in places it’ll cause the most commotion. It’s important to show that you don’t enjoy these states or behaviors, but that there’s nothing you can do to prevent them.

Practice putting yourself in the physiological state that represents your negative identity. For example, if your negative identity is Depressed Person, hunch your shoulders, look at the floor, breathe shallowly. It’s important to condition your body to help you reach your negative peak as quickly as possible.

Exercise: Write down 10 situations that make you anxious, depressed, or distracted. Once a week, pick a single anxiety-provoking situation, and use it to work yourself into a panic for at least 15 minutes.

I actually find this portrayal to be all too accurate sometimes, both for me and in my observations of others with my disorders.

When I read this article, I didn't hear some ignorant, judgemental, empathy-devoid busybody rattling about "kids these days."  I heard someone who has been through her own personal hells revealing some harsh self-discoveries made along the way.  It takes plenty of courage to be honest with yourself about the ways you contribute to your own misery.  Someone who can bare these to an audience is a freaking recovery hero.

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