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Wedding Etiquette / Re: 3:30 pm wedding starts at 5 pm
« on: July 21, 2019, 04:01:24 pm »
Definitely not a Pagan thing, either.
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Also, going back to unpopular opinions, I think I'm the only person in the world who doesn't care about Dr. Who and has no interest in watching it.
This jumped out at me:
Being miserable can give the impression that you’re a wise and worldly person, especially if you’re miserable not just about your life, but about society in general. You can project an aura of someone burdened by a form of profound, tragic, existential knowledge that happy, shallow people can’t possibly appreciate.
I have met so many people who do this. I call it Dennis Miller Syndrome. Back in his stand-up comedy heyday, Dennis made a living showing off how "smart" he was by putting down entire groups of people who obviously didn't see the world the way he did.
Even outside of the comedian realm, there is a mindset that considers it shallow/Pollyanna-ish/ignorant/downright stupid to look on the bright side when there is so much darkness in the world. I find it far better for my own mental health to channel my inner Pollyanna whenever possible. My IQ is, shall we say, up there. I don't need anyone calling my intelligence into question because I choose not to dwell on the negative.
Agree with Airelenaren, some of the things on that list seem likely part of depression/anxiety, not a choice. When I went to read the article, I found it mocks people with depression and anxiety in an extremely unhelpful way (maybe I’m offending against number 14, being too critical). The lack of empathy was profoundly unfunny:
3. Give yourself a negative identity. Allow a perceived emotional problem to absorb all other aspects of your self-identification. If you feel depressed, become a Depressed Person; if you suffer from social anxiety or a phobia, assume the identity of a Phobic Person or a Person with Anxiety Disorder. Make your condition the focus of your life. Talk about it to everybody, and make sure to read up on the symptoms so you can speak about them knowledgeably and endlessly. Practice the behaviors most associated with that condition, particularly when it’ll interfere with regular activities and relationships. Focus on how depressed you are and become weepy, if that’s your identity of choice. Refuse to go places or try new things because they make you too anxious. Work yourself into panic attacks in places it’ll cause the most commotion. It’s important to show that you don’t enjoy these states or behaviors, but that there’s nothing you can do to prevent them.
Practice putting yourself in the physiological state that represents your negative identity. For example, if your negative identity is Depressed Person, hunch your shoulders, look at the floor, breathe shallowly. It’s important to condition your body to help you reach your negative peak as quickly as possible.
Exercise: Write down 10 situations that make you anxious, depressed, or distracted. Once a week, pick a single anxiety-provoking situation, and use it to work yourself into a panic for at least 15 minutes.