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Offline Damocles

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Support Board
« on: May 23, 2018, 10:21:39 pm »
Does anyone think or feel that a "Support" board would be good?  I know we have the "Need a Hug" space but that seems to be a catch all from "I'm having a shitty day" to "My son decided to never speak to me again" whereas I wonder if a dedicated (and more overtly moderated because of subject matter) board would be helpful for people that don't really need etiquette advice but other advice that's not a "general off topic" conversation to have.

For example:

Alcoholism
Addiction
Cancer
Loss
Depression
Self harm
Sexual Assault
Emergency financial assistance (this one is hard to vet)

and such topics as those.  If people feel this is or could be a close community and safe space I would want people to be able to open up and ask for help in their lives.  Life can be brutal and horrible and there's no reason why we, as a community, can't support those that reach out for help. 

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Re: Support Board
« Reply #1 on: May 23, 2018, 11:18:56 pm »
Its a lovely idea, which seems to be coming from a really good place. People have been so beautifully supportive on the old forum with cancer, loss, depression, relationship breakdowns. If you do go ahead, more overt moderation would be good.

Not sure Id feel safe enough to share many of those sorts of things on any forum just yet. Some of the stuff that just happened at the old forum has left me a bit shaken. Still really early days.  In time... maybe. YMMV
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #2 on: May 23, 2018, 11:21:06 pm »
It would be a nice option for people as they feel comfortable opening up to venture into.
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #3 on: May 23, 2018, 11:38:59 pm »
Agree with what the others have said. I think it's a nice idea and I like it but it is early days. Perhaps in time people will feel more comfortable sharing personal things.
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #4 on: May 24, 2018, 12:03:45 am »
Too soon.
The dynamic is going to be really different here - ultimately for the better, I feel sure. But while we're all finding our feet, I've already noticed folks feel more free to be blunt and direct.

In time, I think that will build more authentic closeness, but there's going to be an adjustment period while we get to know each other in a new way.
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #5 on: May 24, 2018, 03:44:51 am »
I absolutely love the idea, but my issue with these type boards/threads is that they always wind up with someone who is never willing to consider anything but positive feedback, and are really just looking for people to (as we say in my family) co-sign their bullshit...meaning they just want someone to pat them on the head and tell them they're doing the best they can while they are clearly full of excuses and crap.

So maybe we could have a board accessible to established members with a certain number of posts? People who the community is familiar with, and who understand that we are a group of honest yet sincere people whose feedback may sometimes be hard to hear? Not that it's an excuse to pick on posters, it's just that sometimes an aspect of a situation may be easier to see from the outside.
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #6 on: May 24, 2018, 05:32:26 am »
I think I agree with CautiouslyOptimistic: it's too soon. I do like the idea, though.

I also agree with Angry Canada Goose about the posts too often becoming 'well, of course you're doing all you can' and striking a balance between supportive and hostile. Supportive is great: I mean, you only have to look at Team Land Crab from the old board to see what it can do.

I'm absolutely in favour of some limitations on posting rights, but at the same time I'm just not quite easy in my mind about it. Somewhere at the back of my mind is the word 'clique' and from there it's but a short step to 'mean girls' and we've been there already this month. Equally, we're all sharing nicely right now, but let's face it, we're going to get trolls sooner or later, because that's the nature of an online forum.

The only ways I can see to manage it would put a load of extra work on the mods. OK, start with automatic rules: X number of posts, membership of the board for Y period. But then I would want to add, say, no upheld mod referrals for breaking the guidelines (with a reasonable period for spent convictions, because anybody can have a bad Moment). Maybe you put your name down on a list to join once you're eligible, and a certain number of other posters in good standing have to approve? Automatic moderation on that board for Z number of posts, one warning and next time you're back to the main boards and have to go through the whole signup again? I'm trying not to go in the direction of all posts having to go through moderation because these are the only mods we've got, and we don't want to kill them with overwork.

On the grounds that there's no shame in admitting ignorance, what about talking to Captain Awkward? Many - most! - of the topics over there are on what might be called contentious topics, and she could probably tell us what to look for and what's a Seriously Just All The No in posting guidelines.
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #7 on: May 24, 2018, 06:06:26 am »
I think I agree with the majority of people so far, in that I think it's probably a bit soon for this.

That said, though, something that I think might be of help might be to have a read-only board that only the mods can post to where we can gather links to resources and sources of good information. Because it's mod created/curated there's no danger of troll posting or cliqishness cropping up, no-one will know who's viewing it/making use of it and no-one needs to post anything personal, but they can still find pointers to help.

Links can be nominated via PM on a sort of no-questions-asked basis - or there may be a way of setting up something more anonymous for that.

And if people do want a bit more interaction (be it a vent or a hug), we've already got places where they can post that without needing to be specific.

I'd be happy to help out on the side of collating/checking of links if this is something that goes ahead.
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Re: Support Board
« Reply #8 on: May 24, 2018, 07:08:19 am »
Cool beans!

Thanks everyone!  I appreciate all your advice and suggestions.  I'll lock this thread but keep it up for some other time down the road (if we get down the road).