While these are great stories I suspect the likelihood is they aren't necessarily true ones... I mean, truth is stranger than fiction and all that but some of these "obsessed bride" stories seem more like creative writing than real things that happened. I could be wrong of course, or it could be an exaggeration based on a true event....
Yeah, I always want to know more details. Like, I honestly think they could be true stories. But, to make it
realistic, you have to explain that the bride has been at college on the other side of the country for several years and rarely visited her family in person. Also, in her younger days there were some indications that she wasn't quite right in the head, but the family was so relieved to think she had gotten over that and found a nice guy to settle down with. Maybe they just aren't super-close and didn't really think much about not meeting the groom beforehand.
Side note: My cousin is getting married, and her father has only met the groom once and talked to him on the phone once; her mom has met him a couple times. And they don't live that far away, nor are they estranged. It just seemed to work out that way. My cousin is in her mid-to-late 30s, a bit old to be getting married for our family, and the groom is 20 years older, has been married before, a few kids. One hopes they realized they were compatible and decided not to waste time doing the rounds of the relatives--maybe they are going to try to have bio-kids, in which case, yeah, the clock is ticking.
Side note 2: Someone I went to high school with ended up going to college far away from her parents and they never visited each other supposedly because they were all too poor to afford the trip. Personally I think there were some issues that made her choose a college that far away in the first place. She ended up meeting and marrying someone her parents had never met. I think they may have Skyped with him a few times, at least. Actually she married him and then didn't tell her parents it had even happened for a few months, because she knew they would be mad they weren't invited. They were always a weird family, but I think the crux was that neither party was particularly excited about keeping up with the other, so you end up with what seems like a shocking situation (married a guy her family never met!) but really, it's a natural outgrowth of their distant relationship.
For the golf club one, the bride just rolls her eyes and says that Steve finds wedding planning totally boring, he doesn't want to hear a thing about it, and she is planning everything. So groomsmen shouldn't even bother asking any questions of him, he won't know the answers, just email her. Probably, no one who knows Steve is surprised by this. You may also have a situation where the family just isn't that close and so the wedding doesn't come up in casual conversation when Steve is around. Also, Steve might realize his girlfriend is a little wedding-obsessed, but he doesn't realize how far gone it is--he hears her talking about bridesmaids' dresses and sees caterers' fliers sitting around and he figures it's just more of her little hobby, and has nothing to do with an actual, real thing she's planning.
In both cases the brides are definitely mentally ill, and if the guys get away they are making a lucky escape. I hope the brides' friends and families convinced them to get counseling afterwards, possibly medication. When you want something really bad, it's a slippery slope to convincing yourself that you really do HAVE it already, and relationships can get dangerously out of sync. A former friend of mine, otherwise mentally sound, dated a guy for a few months (less than year) and was talking about moving to his state for grad school, what their kids would be like, etc. and then on one of her trips out to see him, he broke up with her, out of the blue from her point of view. (And later announced his anniversary with his new girlfriend was BEFORE he had broken up with my friend, that is, he had cheated on her.) She ended up taking herself to counseling because the disconnect between her mind and reality was so jarring for her.
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