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Offline SueZQ

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Uneven office birthday celebration
« on: May 21, 2018, 11:25:45 pm »
So I thought I'd put this out there for all of you helpful people to comment on...

Office Boss decided for some reason (there was some kind of conflict recently) that we would no longer celebrate anyone's birthday. This may have been because the office person responsible wasn't being appreciated on their birthday, or could have been a conflict over money and junk food that happened at each birthday stories have been conflicting. Anyway, no birthday celebrations were decided but not announced to the office until the day of celebration of the Big Boss's secretary happened. After that last birthday everyone was cut off.

Since this change they've "snuck in" celebrations for Big Boss's secretary, Big Boss, & "Boss Who Decided No More Birthdays". Everyone else has been ignored.

So now no one knows if their birthday will be ignored or celebrated  & it seems to be going on senority rather than calendar day now. What would you good people do? Start an office uprising and celebrate the peons by bringing in your own treats at your own cost? Make a stand at the next Big Boss celebration? Find a new job? What's most appropriate?

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Offline Angry Canada Goose

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #1 on: May 21, 2018, 11:30:59 pm »
I'd flat up ask who ever announced the decision what's going on, that you've noticed some birthdays are being celebrated and looking for clarification on why. Maybe the ones celebrated were milestones?
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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #2 on: May 21, 2018, 11:32:30 pm »
I'm conflict-averse, buuuuut I'd probably bring in treats for my own birthday and openly tell people to go get some of the birthday cake I brought for myself!
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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #3 on: May 21, 2018, 11:33:47 pm »
What would you good people do? Start an office uprising and celebrate the peons by bringing in your own treats at your own cost?

This. Everybody loves rebellion cake
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Offline GloryAndCrumpets

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #4 on: May 21, 2018, 11:42:15 pm »
I'm conflict-averse, buuuuut I'd probably bring in treats for my own birthday and openly tell people to go get some of the birthday cake I brought for myself!

Celebrating your own birthday???? The horror! *faints*

No seriously, I think this is not a bad approach. If you wanted to be more subtle about it, you could just bring in some cookies/donuts/cupcakes/whatever and leave them out for people and if someone asks why, then say something about "No reason, it's just my birthday treat!"
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Offline SueZQ

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #5 on: May 21, 2018, 11:53:39 pm »
Unfortunately my birthday won't be till the end of the year. So more birthdays will happen before mine.

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #6 on: May 21, 2018, 11:56:04 pm »
Unfortunately my birthday won't be till the end of the year. So more birthdays will happen before mine.

Hmmm...is there someone with a closer birthday you could suggest this to? Just to get the ball rolling?

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #7 on: May 22, 2018, 12:24:11 am »
I'd flat up ask who ever announced the decision what's going on, that you've noticed some birthdays are being celebrated and looking for clarification on why. Maybe the ones celebrated were milestones?

I agree with this. Rebellion cake is always good, too.  But maybe the person in charge isn’t conscious of the uneven treatment and will change things if it’s pointed out.

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #8 on: May 22, 2018, 12:51:40 am »
This could be so many things and it's ridiculous that nobody straight told the office that "due to budget cuts, we can no longer continue birthday celebrations". Who knows who's footing the bill for the random celebrations. Bleh.

I would agree to bring in treats yourself, I've never had office birthday celebrations until my current job. It's my job to keep track of them, which is glorious because it means that I can happily brush mine under the rug  :D
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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #9 on: May 22, 2018, 03:03:31 am »
The way they're going about it almost seems clique-ish, at least from how it's coming across for me.  As I'm not a conflict confronter myself, the way I'd handle it was discreetly celebrate others birthdays by giving small gifts and snacks.  Perhaps even try to collab with coworkers off hours and take the guest of honour to a place to celebrate their birthday that way.  They said you couldn't celebrate at work, but they can't control what you guys do during your own time.

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #10 on: May 22, 2018, 03:08:25 am »
You could try organising something simple for the next peon's b'day; get the ball rolling and all that. Spread the word so whoever else is interested can also chip in.

Wouldn't hurt to seek clarification on the uneven treatment of birthday celebrations either.

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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #11 on: May 22, 2018, 04:17:21 am »
I'm conflict-averse, buuuuut I'd probably bring in treats for my own birthday and openly tell people to go get some of the birthday cake I brought for myself!

Celebrating your own birthday???? The horror! *faints*

No seriously, I think this is not a bad approach. If you wanted to be more subtle about it, you could just bring in some cookies/donuts/cupcakes/whatever and leave them out for people and if someone asks why, then say something about "No reason, it's just my birthday treat!"

And from the UK... you know, where celebrating your own birthday... are we ready to go there? Really, this early?

Seriously, though, in the UK it's not at all unusual for the birthday person to provide cake for the office on their own birthday. I have to admit, that's one where I tended to think that we didn't do it the right way around, but there it is.
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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #12 on: May 22, 2018, 06:24:32 am »


Celebrating your own birthday???? The horror! *faints*


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Re: Uneven office birthday celebration
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2018, 06:55:37 pm »
I used to work in an office that the rule was that if you wanted to celebrate your birthday, you had to plan the party.  Some people whose birthday's were close to each other would do one party together; some people would serve everyone lunch, others would just do cake and ice cream.  No one was judged for how little or how big they did it, and if you didn't want it done, you didn't have to do it.  Seriously, it was the best and easiest way. 

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« Reply #14 on: May 24, 2018, 03:03:47 am »
I think something like this came up on Ask A Manager, and one suggestion was that there was a monthly 'all the May birthdays' do. It didn't need to be big, maybe just a half hour coffee break with doughnuts, and 'this month, happy birthday to Free Range Hippy Chick, myfamily, and Billia (polite applause)'.

Sidenote: Billia, the spellchecker on my tablet thinks you're called Billiards. Eventually I will call you that, so I'm getting my apology in now.
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